As Told By Tracy: Whole

4th January 20214th January 2021 ~ thegriefreality ~ 12 Comments

There’s a small scar above my left eye, a keepsake from the time my sister and I tried to dig our way to China. I don’t remember the exact thought process that led to this bold venture, but since I was 5 and she was 13, I’m sure our reasoning was perfectly sound. I’m also sure that living in southeastern Idaho played a role in the decision because 1) We had nothing else going on, and 2) Local authorities hadn’t yet enacted any laws against minors procuring gardening shovels, ladders, and gas lanterns, and 3) There were plenty of other kids around who were eager to help (probably because we promised them fields of free fortune cookies upon job completion).

As Told By Anjulie

23rd November 202023rd November 2020 ~ thegriefreality ~ 3 Comments

She’s tidying up now, preparing to leave. I don’t know if I should stop her. Or warn her. But there’s nothing to be done. Things will play out as they always have, for everything happens for a reason, they will say.

As Told By Anonymous

13th July 20209th July 2020 ~ thegriefreality ~ 11 Comments

"I still ask 'why me?'" Thank you to anonymous for submitting this short, simple, but heartfelt post. Feel free to email anonymous submissions in at thegriefreality@outlook.com It is a pleasure to have you here. (Picture by Evee)

As Told By Bryan

10th July 20209th July 2020 ~ thegriefreality ~ 6 Comments

"I experience grieving, I am not becoming grief." Thank you to Bryan Wagner for sharing his thoughts on grief! Make sure you check out Bryan's blog which he dedicates to sharing the teachings of the world. Have a wonderful day everyone.

“How Grief Changes Our Sense of Self”

8th July 20208th July 2020 ~ thegriefreality ~ 26 Comments

The Grief Reality somehow stumbled, tripped and fell our way into a wider grief community, outside of wordpress. We could not be more grateful for the support, advice and joy Katie and I have felt across our social media platforms. One Instagram account that has given me a particular amount of support, is GoodGrief_UK. They … Continue reading “How Grief Changes Our Sense of Self”

Time Capsule

27th May 202022nd May 2020 ~ thegriefreality ~ 22 Comments

The very first photo is my lovely mum in a blue ballgown, taken on the 14th of September, 2013. I would have been 13. The royal blue of Mum's dress brightens and flaunts her clear blue eyes. A faint, hesitant smile has only aged 7 years with fondness and love. Her hair is short, and slightly messy. I love it, but I can imagine mum brushing her fingers through it only moments beforehand.

How We Keep You Alive

26th February 202025th February 2020 ~ thegriefreality ~ 25 Comments

Katie and I will stand side by side and talk about the creation of The Grief Reality. We will talk about how alienating grief was, but the love we felt from this community. We are indebted to the WordPress community for the life it brought back to us.

Grief Day

13th December 201912th December 2019 ~ thegriefreality ~ 8 Comments

Today, I chose to take a “Grief Day” – a term I use to coin a day entirely devoted to feeling grief. A day when I turn to myself for the home comforts just as my mum used to on those sick days from school.

Why Do Milestones Hurt So Much?

27th November 201924th November 2019 ~ thegriefreality ~ 10 Comments

For many of us, we live in hope because those who have lost someone still can’t comprehend it.

“I Am One Minute Old Today”

20th November 2019 ~ thegriefreality ~ 25 Comments

I hope I will forever be grateful, even when inevitably things go wrong; this is my life and I’m in love with it again.