A Griefcase is something you can carry around in your every day life for when grief hits you unexpectedly. Inside this griefcase you will find a collection of our more practical and useful grief management tips!

Bookmark Everything
Be mindful of those little moments that weave colour into your everyday. Scribble little notes, underline everything. Bookmark it all. In no time at all you’ll have a whole collection of moments that add so much colour and life to your life.

Learning To Sleep
If you get night terrors; you are not a freak. You are not a freak for feeling anxious, or because you have experienced trauma, or any other reason.

30 Days of Yoga; What I Learnt
I decided I enjoyed being bad at yoga. Of course, I was bad at yoga. I’m a clumsy girl. Yoga is reserved for a different type of elegance, one I can’t even begin to harbour.

A New Way To Journal
I title each post-it “Dear” and the date. It is simple, but wonderful. Plus you don’t harm the book in the process, which is a thought which brings me a lot of simple joy.

The Things That Make Life Beautiful
I know it seems that this pandemic will never end, particularly as it follows us into a new year. But please know that you are not alone in your struggle, and this will pass. You will see that there are so many reasons to live.

Frozen Peas
I think the thing with grief is that I always want to know the ‘why’ or the ‘what’; Why did I break down after a perfectly nice weekend? What was the trigger? On Sunday night, I went to bed and woke up 23 again, in 2018. I woke up with all of the fresh pain and the memories of my mum passing away. I felt frantic and only wanted to speak to the people who were around me then.

“How Grief Changes Our Sense of Self”
The Grief Reality somehow stumbled, tripped and fell our way into a wider grief community, outside of wordpress. We could not be more grateful for the support, advice and joy Katie and I have felt across our social media platforms. One Instagram account that has given me a particular amount of support, is GoodGrief_UK. They… Read more ““How Grief Changes Our Sense of Self””

As Told By You
Look at the menu bar on top of this page and you will see a new tab labelled “As Told By You”. We want to hear more from you about your experiences with grief. This can be in anyway you so wish to express yourself; perhaps through poetry, art, one word or a sentence that begins with “Grief is …”. Perhaps you’d like to share a whole post as Bereavedsingledad has done recently.
Grief is messy and painful. Grief can feel awkward and heavy. Grief can leave you feeling isolated and alone.
Let this space be your empty void to scream into, to feel a little lighter and get the pain off of your chest. You’ve read plenty of posts as told by Evee and myself, but this page is your space for your grief, as told by you.

Quarantine Tips: Exercise
With this segment, I want to focus on how we can maintain our health and wellbeing. At the point of writing this, we are allowed one hour out of the house for exercise a day.

The Importance of Dating Yourself
We need to see our whole complete teen, twenty, thirty, forty, fifty something selves and we need to love each and every version of us.

Grief Day
Today, I chose to take a “Grief Day” – a term I use to coin a day entirely devoted to feeling grief. A day when I turn to myself for the home comforts just as my mum used to on those sick days from school.

Why Do Milestones Hurt So Much?
For many of us, we live in hope because those who have lost someone still can’t comprehend it.

The Sum of Life
And here we are, with a whole life in plastic bags.

Brand New
Why do we have this self-imposed idea that throughout our lives we are meant to maintain a perfect, crisp version of ourselves? Like untouched snow, or fresh school shoes that we don’t want to scratch.

Still.
How could I still be listening out, just in case Mum needed me?

Under Pressure
That’s one of the most difficult things about losing my mum, I just want to tell her how difficult life is without her in it.

Anger
If we consider emotions as tools to deal with life, we need each and every one of them for a purpose. So, do not suppress it.
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Dear Katie and Evee as well as Gary (bereavedandbeingasingleparent),
Hello! I have replied to one of your comments at Gary’s blog. Since it is my first comment, it is awating moderation or approval, after which you will receive my comment.
Your post entitled “Judging Yourself Through Your Grief” published at Gary’s blog as well as your page entitled “Our Story” have lead me here to make the very first comment on your page that is so aptly called the “Griefcase”. Indeed, your writings made me very emotional and teary. Reading them have caused me to feel the sadness in my heart and to miss my late mother, whose life has been commemorated and immortalized by the special multimedia eulogy-cum-memoir-cum-biography entitled “Khai & Khim: For Always and Beyond Goodbye”, which has since become a great deal longer and even more comprehensive, intimate and personal than it was. The said post also contains my musical compositions dedicated to my mother, and it is available at https://soundeagle.wordpress.com/2019/08/31/khai-khim-for-always-and-beyond-goodbye/
The said post is best viewed on a large screen of a desktop or laptop computer, since it could be too powerful and feature-rich for iPad, iPhone, tablet or other portable devices to handle properly or adequately.
How I miss my mother! I have had to contained my emotions and composed myself before I could type out my comment here, and so I took the opportunity to read others’ comments left on your post. Thank you for your very touching post. I also have had the same or similar thoughts that if my mum were still alive, it would be very difficult for me to keep her safe from the caronavirus without compromising her quality of life as well as our closeness.
By the way, the spellchecker of my web browser insists that “caronavirus” should be spelt as “carnivorous”!
I would like to wish you and your respective families a very HAPPY MAY in Yorkshire!