As Told By Anonymous #3

Grief is being told by the doctor your dad has 3 months to live. Even with therapy and other cutting treatments maximum 18 months. Grief is the period where you wait and try and make the most of the time given. Grief is struggling and trying to deal with all the stress, upset and responsibilities that come with becoming the ‘man’ of the house. Grief is when you are strong and start crying, by yourself and with others. That is not being weak. That is being human. Never run from your family, but strengthen your bond with them and get through everything together. Whatever your situation, your family is there for you. It is not weak to talk to them. Grief is the period where you wait and try and make the most of the time given. That is not being weak. That is being human. Never run from your family, but strengthen your bond with them and get through everything together. Whatever your situation, your family is there for you. It is not weak to talk to them. I am writing this because I know a lot of people, especially guys, will be struggling through this. And I want you to know there are numerous options better that drinking or smoking it away. People will always be there for you, me and many others who are going through the same thing so pls comment below cos you’re not the only ones.

Thank you, Paxton, for your submission. I think it is really hard for men in general to open up about their grief, and it is an honour to share his thoughts and feelings here.

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Have a beautiful day.

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4 thoughts on “As Told By Anonymous #3

  1. oldandblessed – I'm a retiree, and a twenty-plus year survivor of cancer (Multiple Myeloma). I've come from some of the most humble beginnings anyone could experience. I now find myself old and blessed in ways for which I can only thank God! I now find myself at a point in life where I think I know what life is about, and wondering why I couldn't have figured this out years ago. God, family and friends are the real things of value.
    oldandblessed says:

    Being a man, I think I can say with some authority that when many of us think we’re strong, we’re actually at our at our weakest point. I established a chroonic illness support group at my church several years ago. It’s going well; however, the participants are mostly women. I know very well that there are numerou men who suffer in silence from a variety of chronic illnesses. It’s too bad they won’t participate in the group, and allow healing for themselves and others by sharing their experience.

  2. Too often we are expected to take it like a man. Stiff upper lip. That’s stuff I actually heard. Just don’t talk about it. Sadly that doesn’t work. We struggle, we have limits, we having breaking points. In 4 years I have only spoken to 2 blokes about grief. It has to change. It really does. That you did sharing.

  3. vincenza63 – Writer e blogger per passione, 57 anni, vivo in provincia di Milano. Nella vita traduco testi tecnici e scrivo. Sono un'appassionata di musica, letteratura, amici, allegria, meditazione e riflessione.
    vincenza63 says:

    Just <3
    a woman from Italy
    Vicky

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