As Told By Ingrid

Ingrid reached out to us to share this beautiful poem that she wrote for her mum’s 62nd birthday. It is an honour to be able to share such heartfelt and personal pieces such as this one on our blog. It gives us such hope and a sense of community to connect with you all through grief.

Thank you Ingrid, and thank you to everyone who allows us to share their posts about grief. Make sure you go on over to Ingrid’s blog to check out the rest of her content, and please let us know via email or our “contact us page” if you’d like to share something about grief on our blog. Everyone grieves and here at The Grief Reality, we want to normalise the conversation.



Poem on Your Birthday

This poem is dedicated to my mother, Elizabeth, who died aged 32. Today would have been her 62nd birthday. It’s also dedicated to all those who knew and loved her, and to my children who she never got the chance to meet. The loss of my mother also inspired The Tide which could be read as a companion piece.

I remember
The coolness of your skin, and your warm heart
The thickness of your hair, and your thin body
Seemed like the wind could blow right through you
Which it did
It blows through me, too though
It won’t blow me over

I remember
You waiting for me in the school yard
My favourite time of day
And the days you didn’t come
The worst
And the one day you would never come again
A nightmare

Still, in time there are wild flowers again
And sunny days
There is new life, new love
And still the old, which never left
It’s blowing in the wind
Which blows through you
And blows through all things, but cannot destroy
Our love

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8 thoughts on “As Told By Ingrid

  1. Cheryl, Gulf Coast Poet – Gulf Coast of Florida – A retired teacher, I live with my significant other on the Gulf Coast of Florida. I enjoy the beach, walking outdoors, movies, and reading. Hanging Out with Wild Animals is a book series of photos and poems about my encounters with Florida animals. Wonders is a book of poems inspired by the men I have known and loved. Life in Inspiring Places is a book of photos and poems about the places rich in history and natural beauty that I have called home. Excerpts from the books and additional poems can be found on my website. Cheryl Batavia says:

    Beautiful tribute to your mother, Ingrid. All the best, Cheryl

  2. jbcowgill – I am one who loves to travel. I enjoy photography. I take many photos of my journeys. I also write short stories and poems.
    jbcowgill says:

    Great tribute. Thank you for sharing.

  3. emergingfromthedarknight – Australia – "The religious naturalist is provisioned with tales of natural emergence that are, to my mind, far more magical than traditional miracles. Emergence is inherent in everything that is alive, allowing our yearning for supernatural miracles to be subsumed by our joy in the countless miracles that surround us." Ursula Goodenough How to describe oneself? People are a mystery and there is so much more to us than just our particular experiences or occupations. I could write down a list of attributes and they still might not paint a complete picture pf Deborah Louise and in any case it would not be the full truth of me. I would say that my purpose here on Wordpress is to express some of my random experiences, thoughts and feelings, to share about my particular journey and explore some subjects dear to my heart, such as emotional recovery, healing and astrology while posting up some of the prose/poems which are an outgrowth of my labours with life, love and relationships. If anything I write touches you I would be so pleased to hear for the purpose of reaching out and expressung ourselves is hopefully to connect with each other and find where our souls meet.
    emergingfromthedarknight says:

    Such a moving poem.. resonated deeply.. <3

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