As Told By You

Evee and I cared for Mum in the same way and we lost her together, yet, one of the biggest learning curves during the last couple of years is the fact that we grieve completely differently. At first, we were both clumsy and awkward about our grief, but now we embrace this difference and, quite often, learn from one another which is what inspired this blog last year.

Before The Grief Reality gained any followers, this blog was an empty void where we could come to shout, and to cry about how much we were hurting. Through writing we came away feeling lighter and better able to make sense of our pain.

When The Grief Reality started to gain more and more followers, we noticed how some people come here just to read other people’s comments. We never expected to feel so much comfort by reading the comments ourselves. To date, we have received 1800 comments. That’s 1800 voices of support and reassurance that grief is normal and what you are feeling is okay!

So, this is where you come in…

Look at the menu bar on top of this page and you will see a new tab labelled “As Told By You”. We want to hear more from you about your experiences with grief. This can be in anyway you so wish to express yourself; perhaps through poetry, art, one word or a sentence that begins with “Grief is …”. Perhaps you’d like to share a whole post as Bereavedsingledad has done recently.

Grief is messy and painful. Grief can feel awkward and heavy. Grief can leave you feeling isolated and alone.

Let this space be your empty void to scream into, to feel a little lighter and get the pain off of your chest. You’ve read plenty of posts as told by Evee and myself, but this page is your space for your grief, as told by you.

If you like this idea, you can submit a little post below, or email us at with “As told by you” in the subject line. Please make sure to leave a note if you wish to remain anonymous.

Let’s normalise the conversation about grief!




29 thoughts on “As Told By You

  1. clairei47 – My name is Claire. I am a mum, a wife and I work for the NHS. For as long as I can remember I have drank alcohol and my relationship with it has become increasingly complex over recent years. I’m 47 and I want to be physically and mentally healthy. I want to be present in my life and enjoy the journey, not drown it out with wine and hangovers. I have had anxiety and depression and I am still working hard to keep them at bay. I am hoping that not having alcohol will help me beat them. I have decided to detail how things progress via this blog. I know nothing about blogging but I think support from others is essential. Maybe one day I can help someone with my story. I started my sober journey on 17th November 2019; long may it continue.
    clairei47 says:

    Lovely idea both. I really hope people use it to express their feelings and emotions around the subject of grief. Xx

  2. Debananda Roy – Worked in different civil society organization , want to learn,share different kind of information that have value in our life. Exchange of information is welcome here. Together we can serve a large number of people... can be helping hands of each other towards development..
    Debananda Roy says:

    Nice presentation.
    Pl visit my blog .

    1. Hi Lisa, thank you so much for your support <3 It would be great to have something of yours on here! If you have a post in mind, or if you'd like to write something in particular about what grief means to you, we'd love to post it. No rush though, this will be an ongoing segment of our blog from now on 🙂

  3. frithtreasure1 – I am an experienced registered nurse registeted midwife for the past 17 years , i am also trained in community health. I have authored a book A Guide to Maternity Care Annotated. I am working as a nurse educator at one of the largest school of nursing in the caribbean. I do midwifery consultation
    frithtreasure1 says:

    I believe this…It is a good avenue for persons to feel free to speak about grief or the grieving process and they will get support and comfort knowing someone is listening. Keep up the good job

  4. Grief is a journey. I volunteered at a wonderful organization called Tomorrow’s Rainbow. Through TR, I became a facilitator to help children on their grief journey after losing a loved one.

  5. I want to tell you my story how I lost myself….like literally and blamed that everything was my mistake. I literally lost myself for 2 months and wasn’t able to think. I want to share my story. How can I share it with you?

      1. Yeah sure….when I make up my mind to tell…I promise I’ll mail you without hesitation…and I do wish to come that day very soon…actually I was thinking to tell but I guess still I’m not ready

  6. K E Garland – Dr. Garland to some, Mrs. Garland to others, KG to a select few, and Kathy to everyone else. But in reality, I'm just me. Not titles. No pretense. Just me.
    K E Garland says:

    “Let’s normalise the conversation about grief!” Indeed. This is what I wish I’d had years ago.

  7. K E Garland – Dr. Garland to some, Mrs. Garland to others, KG to a select few, and Kathy to everyone else. But in reality, I'm just me. Not titles. No pretense. Just me.
    K E Garland says:

    I meant to also say, Kudos to you two for turning your grief into a shared, compassionate experience for all <3

  8. Wow. This is such a lovely, generous offering!!! Thank You for Your beautiful hearts!!!

  9. I’ve realized that sadness brings people closer than happiness ever can. Like reading your posts & this opportunity for others to share their pain is a wonderful gesture on your part… Power to you!

  10. What we want to get rid off in our life… You have given a space for that…. Because, you understood the fact that we can’t get rid of grief in our life. But, the only thing that will make a difference is to embrace it in such a way that it will enhance our quality of sympathy and empathy towards other….
    Way to go..

  11. K E Garland – Dr. Garland to some, Mrs. Garland to others, KG to a select few, and Kathy to everyone else. But in reality, I'm just me. Not titles. No pretense. Just me.
    K E Garland says:

    This is a great idea. I’ll have to formulate my thoughts and return with something.

  12. June Lorraine Roberts – Toronto Canada and elsewhere – June Lorraine Roberts is a Flash Fiction writer of crime fiction, whose stories have been featured by Punk Noir Magazine, Akashic Books and The Flash Fiction Press. As the creator of, a website about crime fiction books and authors, she features debut and mid-list writers worldwide. Murder in Common is a FeedSpot Top 100 Crime Fiction Blog. June Lorraine is a graduate of the London School of Journalism, a member of Sisters in Crime, and the Short Fiction Mystery Society. She has served as a Derringer Judge, Bouchercon panelist, and has read her work at Noir at the Bar. As time permits, she beta reads for crime fiction authors.
    June Lorraine Roberts says:

    I’m curious if you will publish an anthology of these stories?

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